Joanne Sparrow (nee Ralphs)
My daughter, Rebecca Emily Ralphs, born 8.3.95, passed to the other side on 9.5.00. Rebecca was my wake up call!
Rebecca was christened the eve before her first operation when she was only 8 weeks old (weighing 6lb), she “died” on the 5th anniversary of this special occasion. What bigger message could I receive? I was lucky to share her life for 5 years.
Rebecca also happened to have Down’s Syndrome. I always felt I had her for a reason, because she changed my life so completely. Rebecca constantly amazed me and proved the professionals wrong – those who had told me all the things she wouldn’t be able to do. Rebecca taught me the power of positivity, she enjoyed life which was filled with fun, laughter and lots of love but it took me a few years, after her departure, to incorporate those values into my own life.
After “losing” Rebecca, the most precious person in my life, I did not believe I would ever be happy again, only that I would simply live my life until my days were over and I’d be with her again. About 18 months later, however, I met Tom, who provided love and support to help me enjoy life again, come to terms with my grief and finally to heal my broken heart. We got married on the beach here, 9th May 2003, the anniversary of Rebecca’s passing – Tom wanted to share something special between Rebecca and her Mummy. It was a beautiful day, the start of a new life for us all – the healing process had finally begun.
So thanks to Rebecca, I have followed a very different path since her passing. I was awarded a Diploma in Stress Management which incorporated a variety of holistic massages, counselling skills and other tools to ease the stress in our lives. It hasn’t always been an easy path without her; it’s certainly been a roller coaster ride at times with extreme lows and highs. In 2006 I addressed my depression which I’d suffered from on and off since my late 20’s – it had become a bad habit and I didn’t know it was my choice (a shock I know – happy to tell you the story in more detail). I continued to study and search for different forms of healing going on self-development courses, Angel Days, Crystal & Colour Therapy, being attuned to Reiki & Seichem etc study and a few years later discovered one of the best healing tools EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). EFT helped to permanently heal many aspects of my life and I truly started to heal but there was still more work still to be done, so my search continued and I studied and took courses on subjects such as NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), NAC (Neuro Associative Conditioning), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, The New Mood Therapy etc, Psyche-K, Emotion Code and now, using many of these healing methods, combined with EFT, I have finally transformed my life.
During the last few months (2021) I’ve continued with my learning going on a Fuck It retreat last Oct but even more recently grief & loss training plus specialised webinars re grief and Being Me. I believe everyone should be taught about grief and loss – we grieve for so many things, not just the loss of someone but that’s another subject for another time …..
Rebecca was a ray of sunshine in the life of many and even though she’s no longer on this earth plane, she continues to touch the hearts of many. Because of Rebecca, Tom and I had a wonderful life together, and now I have this awesome opportunity to help others to transform their lives too.
As above, so below.
As within, so without